Consent Violation Procedure
The Body Shop will deal with any consent incidents on a case-by-case basis keeping in mind that limits can be violated deliberately, or through poor communication, misunderstandings, technical accidents, lack of knowledge, and/or lack of experience.
- If there is an injury that requires medical care, offer to have a staff member take them to the hospital or call 911 if it’s an emergency.
- If someone wants to report the incident to the police, have them call 911 or offer to take them along with a friend to the police station. The staff member should not express their views on what has occurred nor discuss the incident except to (a) respond to medical questions about the person’s injury and (b) to answer—factually and truthfully—police questions.
- If no emergency care is requested, have two staff members speak individually to the person reporting the consent incident, as well as to anyone directly involved and any witnesses to what happened.
- If a consent violation is reported, a staff member will record the names and contact information for anyone involved in an alleged consent violation at an event. If there is a criminal investigation later, law enforcement will contact the group and ask for the names of those involved and any witnesses. Having the names will remove the need for the court to subpoena the group for the names of those in attendance to find alleged witnesses or the alleged perpetrator.
- When you talk to each person individually, ask them what happened and what they would like to have happen now.
- Consider the following issues to where there are consistencies and to determine where the accounts differ:
What did they negotiate?
What were their limits?
Did the bottom safeword or withdraw consent?
Is there anything that might negate consent such as impaired thinking or a any health issue?
What is the history of interaction between the participants?
How much experience do those involved have with the activities that were done?
Was there an injury done that exceeded the negotiated limits?
- Whether a consent incident happens at The Body Shop or when you receive a report about a member from another community organizer, the following are some things you can consider when trying to determine if a member should be disciplined or banned from your group:
- Seriousness – If the act involved physically injury, especially if they had to get medical care.
- Intent – Was the act done deliberately or was it an accident, misunderstanding, miscommunication, a lack of skills or knowledge? Are there accusations of manipulation, coercion or maliciousness?
- Multiple Accusations – When someone is involved in multiple consent incidents, they are a higher risk to the group. Often a similar pattern emerges in the activities or circumstances. Of over 4,500 people who responded to the NCSF Consent Violations Survey, only ½ of 1% said they had been falsely accused two or more times.
- Police reports and Restraining Orders – There is a serious penalty for filing a false police report, so it rarely happens. If there has been a police report made, take it very seriously. A restraining order has to be defended to a judge, so there has to be evidence that it is necessary.
- Confession – People sometimes publicly accept responsibility for violating someone’s limits or safeword. That helps set an example for what is acceptable, and helps the individual make reparations. Beware of apologies laced with excuses or justifications.
- Don’t suggest that everyone involved get together to discuss the incident. If the person reporting the incident would like mediation for a minor consent incident, only do so if the person who committed the act is eager to apologize and rectify the situation.
- Have someone or a group of people who are empowered to make an immediate decision, even if the ultimate decision is made by the owners at a later date. Take into account what the person reporting the consent incident would like to have happen.
- Depending on the severity of the offense, we can issue a warning, apply sanctions or ban the member.